What Is Not, What Is

It is while reading Marshall McLuhan and Quentin Fiore’s popular classic ‘The Medium Is The Massage’ that I stumbled upon this great aphorism by Laotze:

The use of clay in molding pitchers
Comes from the hollow of its absence;

Doors, windows, in a house,
Are used for their emptiness;

Thus we are helped by what is not,
To use what is.


Before We Go: Select Excerpts

Before We Go, a film by and starring Chris Evans might be along the lines of Richard Linklater’s Before Trilogy in the basic framework (and title), nonetheless a good watch owing to some good conversations about relationships therein. Select excerpts of conversations from the recently watched film:

Nick and the old Fortune Teller:

Nick (talking about fortune teller and his dead wife): Wow! You guys seemed perfect.
Fortune Teller: Well Nick, there is no perfect. There will always be struggle. We just have to pick who we want to struggle with.

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How I Miss Things I Have Never Known


My current favorite from ‘Love & Misadventure’ by Lang Leav. (I read the complete book a year ago. I read it whenever I am alone and I feel emotionally charged. My favorite has changed over the past year, depending on where I am personally in life, yes it’s been an adventure!)

Simple language makes these poems easy to understand unlike the classics. And the relatable emotions is what makes these poems memorable as they find a place in the readers’ lives. Thank you Lang Leav for providing a poem for almost every occasion.

He and She

Have you met someone at a fleeting time and space, you’ve really liked them, you’re not sure if you will see them again or if you will get a chance to get to know them, and take it forward? Read on just the  poem reiterating those feelings, and  that, subtly so. Continue reading

Have Some Pride

It’s certainly not love
Leave no room for doubt.
Doesn’t look like budding friendship either
So it shall be, day in and day out.

Though you might think so
Neither is it getting to know.
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Revolutions Reduced To Hashtags : An Insight Into the Plight of the LGBT Section in the Hands of Heterosexual India

The Internet
Social networking sites undoubtedly are the most just spaces on the Earth as they have indiscriminately provided us all platforms to voice our thoughts, unlike in the real space where society is predominantly hierarchical and continuously restrains new thoughts under its rigid structure. (From what I see in India and would be true of a lot of other places.) They have taken the world by a storm. And consequently they have also given rise to this phenomena, where, almost everyone now feels the compulsive need to voice their opinion at the earliest, about anything that is ‘trending’.

People feel a certain compulsion to let everyone else know they are following the current events, they are knowledgeable and have an opinion that they think needs to be put forward. Moreover, they want to be quick or so as to say ‘first among their friends’ to have posted in those regard. And in order to do so, they do not actually delve deep into the subject but skim through it and often through the take of writers on popular sites like BuzzFeed, Storypick, ScoopWhoop, etc. This often leaves their understanding of the issue half-baked. And a lot of times shadowed by the opinion of writers on these websites. Originality goes for a toss. And before you even know, the hullabaloo dies out and another topic takes them slave, and this goes on. And these people form the enormous bandwagon of pseudo-intellectuals.

And people who genuinely ponder over issues are less likely to be as active on social media. And so when they do turn to Facebook, they see their newsfeed flooded with similar posts (often having surface level content) that happened like a wildfire overnight or sometimes within a matter of hours. It pricks them, and quite a few conclude they don’t want to join the herd in its fad. The thinkers refrain from giving what would be a worthy outlook, and end up keeping their ideas to themselves.

Following the legalization of same-sex marriage in the Sates on June 26th, the world exclaimed in support with rainbow-filtering their photos on Facebook, and so did much active netizens of India. And gay marriage undoubtedly became the most talked about issue, pushing behind other topics of concern, namely women’s security, unjust beauty standards, government surveillance, and net neutrality among others, that created much stir in the past year or two.

It’s an alarming situation. While people distributed leaflets, published newsletters, organized awareness workshops, took to the streets and marched unafraid, voicing their demand or support as allies to groups to bring a revolution in yesteryears that led to constitutional changes; today it has reduced to laconic reposts and hashtags. 

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Run From It Or Learn From It

One of the many hacks to ‘life’ from The Lion King.

(I could still watch it another countless number of times without a blink of an eye, except when I have to wipe my eyes when the onion chopping ninjas come like they do every time. Yes, this movie makes me cry.)

You’re My End And My Beginning

Whatte’ song! When I first heard it a few months ago, I detested it. But my friend loved it (understandably so since she’s soon expected to wed her now fiance and a lover of many years) so much so that she would play it on loop, days at end, and I had no choice but to bear with her. But, the song is so beautiful per se that it grew on me. And when I played it today after a couple of months, I did the same- looped it!

How can the universe to do this to me? Sigh. This just cannot be happening. ‘The Boy Worth The Wait’ hasn’t even spoken to me properly as yet!

But hey, this song weaves an unrealistically ideal tapestry of love. John Legend, misleads us into hoping for something as perfect as what he and his wife have, apparently.

And So They Say


A conversation between Ganga and the King of the Lunar Dynasty of Hastinapur, Shantanu.
Courtesy ~ Adi Parva – Churning of the Ocean via Amruta Patil

He didn’t honour his words, obviously. And later went on to marry Yojangandha, who later became known as Sathyawati. (An episode from the epic Mahabharata.)

Oh Boy, You’re Worth The Wait!

Disclaimer: It is inadvisable to try something like this since it is a work of some extreme wishful thinking. Chances are one is going to fail miserably and even if things do take the turn you wish them to take, they shall still be too good to be true.

This feeling is so good that I don’t want to hurry things up and scare him away, though sometimes I ask myself if I already did. This seems meaningful, for reasons I am yet to comprehend. I want him to take his time and realize that I truly deserve him. Being patient is the best thing to do. I believe the wait is going to be its worth.

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